This is going to be a bit of a different post for me. I would like to think on the whole I am a positive person and I want this blog to be full of positivity and inspiration not moaning and groaning because whats the use in that. However sometimes things aren’t all rainbows and sunshine and that’s okay too. Saying that, this post isn’t meant to be a grumble either, I simply wanted to do a bit of a life update. I’ve been feeling a lot of stress at the moment and I decided today to sit down and really talk about how I deal with stress and about stay positive when things are all getting a bit overwhelming. Hopefully sharing this could help others of you who may be dealing with the same sort of issues.
In the grand scheme of things I know there isn’t anything to worry about or to stress over but as much as I tell myself that and it might calm me down for a minute or two my anxieties and insecurities always creep back. I tend to deal with stress quite well, I love being busy and feeling like I’m being productive and so I always push myself to do more and more stuff. If I’m not working on a show I’ll be doing some singing work, if I’m not singing I’ll be writing a blog post or filming and taking photos. Don’t get me wrong I love all that and I feel so lucky that I am able to do all the things I love on a daily basis, for me the only problem is knowing when to switch off. I’m the sort of person that feels guilty if I sit down and watch a film so instead I answer emails or edit blog photos whilst my friends watch the film and get annoyed at me for ruining the atmosphere with my screen light (sorry guys).
Last week I was doing an acting job in Birmingham from 9 till 6, whilst trying to get sponsored content up on my blog and instagram, filming content for my YouTube channel, keeping on-top of my 8 week fitness program, all at the same time as moving house, and I won’t lie to you all… I think it broke me. I spent Thursday and Friday of last week going through the motions of where I was meant to be at what time whilst in my head I’m pretty sure I was actually asleep. I haven’t burnt out that much in a long time but I knew I had pushed it too far and I felt completely mentally and physically drained. I knew it was time for a break and luckily I had 4 days off to catch up with myself and more importantly to rest. However as I mentioned above I’m not the best at switching off and so I jotted down a few things that I thought I should prioritise in order to get myself back to me.
LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
This is probably the most important and yet the most looked over thing you can do. People are so good these days of pushing through tiredness and stress and although this is sometimes needed it is also so important to know when to stop.
PUT THE PHONE DOWN
This one is a note to myself, but feel free to take it if you to pick up your phone to text your boyfriend about dinner and 3 hours later you’re still replying to emails. I know when things are getting out of hand when my phone is already on 10% battery by lunch time and when ‘power saving mode’ pop up is a recurring sight I know it’s time to have some tech free time. Having a day or even a few hours away from my phone and laptop really helps me de- stress and prioritise things that are really important.
ITS OKAY TO SAY NO
There are a lot of hours in the day and when things are building up and I feel like I can’t juggle everything on my plate this is a mantra I like to remind myself of to reassure myself I have enough time to do everything I need to. However, I personally push this a little far sometimes and although you can get a lot done in a day it’s okay to say no to things. I feel terrible turning down any opportunity or event but sometimes you have to know when enough is enough. When you can’t fit anything else in your designated space in your diary, maybe its time to hold off accepting new projects until you feel in control of the things your currently working on.
STOP BEING SO HARD ON YOURSELF
I think we all have a tendency to be hard on ourselves, for me I’ll get annoyed at myself if I don’t tick everything off my list of things to do. This in itself is causing extra stress. That’s not to say don’t aim high, but just don’t beat yourself up if you have to leave a few things unticked for a few days.
LET GO OF WHAT YOU CAN’T CONTROL
I’m a massive culprit of this myself. I will hold my hands up and admit I’m a control freak, BIG TIME! and I’m probably one of the worlds biggest perfectionist. I get worked up and angry if things aren’t to the standard I want them to be, but (as hard as it is for me to admit) sometimes it’s out of my control… and thats okay! Do your best, as your parents would tell you I’m sure, that’s all you can do.
I’d love to know if you have any tips to share on dealing with stress or how you unwind after a busy few weeks. I really love reading comments from you guys, so feel free to share below!